Sarah recently had surgery to remove a tumor from her pituitary gland in the hopes of treating her Cushing’s Disease. She died on June 13, 2011 after a brief illness at the age of 28.
More information will be provided when it becomes available.
Sarah F’s mom posted this: “we will be setting up an account at the royal bank tomorrow afternoon for sarah. we are planning on having a bench put in her name at transfer beach in ladysmith after we get her home. if you would like to help you can make a donation instead of sending flowers. we will post when we have everything set up. thank you everyone for your support and kind words for sarah…..”
Also from Sarah’s mom: “a account is set up for sarah fraik at any royal bank the number is 02000 5000823 any donation is welcome to help with bringing sarah home and getting a bench with her name put on it at transfer beach ladysmith thanks everyone.”
Beth Grant writes: “I already have asked her about how people from out of the country can donate and I’m still waiting to hear back. But my offer also stands to have people paypal me or send cheques and I can just go to the bank here and deposit it to the account. There’s an option to Send Money, so you just click on a few things and it gets sent. I’ve sent and received through paypal many times and never had trouble.”
Conversion from US to CAN: http://www.advfn.com/currency-converter/us-to-canadian-dollar.html
From the Acromegaly Community:
Last night I was at an open-air concert; and while waiting for the show to start, I was unexpectedly faced with mortality. Everyone at the show was fine, but when I was reading social networking posts, I kept reading people’s messages of peaceful rest to a woman I didn’t know; but I could totally relate to her struggles with a rare disease. Sarah, a young woman dealing with the effects of Cushings Syndrome, passed away from a head cold- a medical complication at the ripe old age of 28. I didn’t need to know Sarah to know that this was just wrong!
Based on what I have read from many of Sarah’s friends, I got a brief snapshot of the situation. Not only was she a very special woman that many people loved, her passing was made more tragic because maybe it was avoidable. It seems that several people were concerned that the quality of her medical care was at least partly to blame for her early passing. Now I did not know Sarah or her issues to agree or disagree, but it brings up a really important topic of discussion for the rest of us: what is a good relationship with your medical professional? For those who are unfamiliar, Cushings Syndrome is a hormonal disease that impacts people who have a consistently high exposure to cortisol (a hormone released into the body as a response to stress). I have had cause to learn a lot about Cushings because of the number of Acromegaly patients who have to juggle the effects of both diseases.
While I know this discussion can be uncomfortable, I would like for you to ask yourself honestly: DO YOU TRUST YOUR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL? Please understand the question I am asking is different than whether you like your doctor. While it is nice if you like your doctor, it is not as critically important that you like your doctor, as it is that you trust him or her. I promise you that I am not golfing buddies with any of my medical professionals; but… I am confident that they are providing me with the best possible medical care I could ask for, without my traveling to a dozen other cities. Ultimately, this is an essential question you need to answer for yourself because your answer can directly impact the quality of your health care, and therefore the length and quality of your overall life.
Now does trusting your doctor mean they know everything there is to know about all things medical? NO! Just because you trust your doctor or nurse does not guarantee that they know everything about every disease you may ever have. Willingness to learn accentuates, not lessens a doctor’s credentials as a diagnostician. Many of us have had cause to teach our doctors something about our disease not covered in the textbooks yet. When I was growing up, I knew a doctor’s wife who used to love to joke that ‘that’s why it’s called practicing medicine. They have to keep trying till they get it right.’ It is impossible for any one medical professional to know everything about everything. The question you need to answer for yourself is whether you trust them to listen to what you say and help you to make your life more pleasant, because of or in spite of your medical situation.
Sadly, for some of us, our medical issues are not a joke but a depressing reality- that we have to go years before we find the right medical professional who can both treat us medically AND handle our personalities in a way that will help us to trust our doctor/nurse/physician assistant.
Now, if it is true that the doc is merely practicing, why is our trusting them so essential to the relationship? That is simple. Honesty. If you are anything like me, you would rather go to a medical office than a psychic for your medical care. If you are withholding from your doctor, for any reason, you are detracting from your own medical care – and making it nearly impossible for your doctor to properly treat you! I am not saying you should call your doctor’s office because you stubbed your toe getting into bed last night and your nail is bruised in the morning, but if you stubbed your toe last night and you were in so much pain that you woke up and took seventeen aspirin, this is an issue worthy of a chat. Your medical professionals need to understand who you are, how you feel, what your pain threshold is, and how you manage your medical issues when he or she is not around (yes, this means your OTC treatments AND if some of your self-treatments do not necessarily come from recognized pharmacies- while this may be an awkward conversation and you may get scolded, such decisions by you can effect your treatment too!). Medical professionals and their patients must know they can trust each other.
Ultimately, we are the patients- its kind of like being the customer at a store. If you want to do hours of research before you buy the best can opener, or if you want to consistently look over your doctor’s shoulder, that is your right; but ultimately you need to have faith in the purchase you make at the store, just as you need to have faith in your doctor’s course of treatment. If you do not feel comfortable enough doing that, then you have a decision to make: is your lack of trust in the doctor their fault, or is it yours (as the patient)? Again, not an easy question to honestly answer, but essential in our long-term well-being! If you have been withholding too much from the doctor, waiting for the doc to miraculously figure out what’s wrong seems both unlikely and unfair- and largely a mess of your own doing. Going to another doctor is simply going to slow your treatment, and likely perpetuate the problem. It is not the doctor’s fault that you are not honest with them about your issues. Open up with your doctor and have a frank discussion- see where things go from there. But if you are honest with your doctor, and you still feel like the doctor is either uninterested, unable or unwilling to figure out your issues, or is flat out too busy to give you the focus you require and deserve, well then you need to look at possibly seeking a new medical professional.
Just remember, starting with a new doc can be difficult. If he or she is popular, you might wait at least a month or two just to get that first appointment where no treatment might legitimately get started. During this time that you wait, your issues are not being treated at all. On top of that, you and your new doc both need to figure each other out, and again you need to try to build that trust and understanding with a new doctor and staff, working toward a momentum of medical stability. All that being said, if you are not happy, and are ready for the switch, then go for it! Remember, you are most responsible for your own medical care, since you are the person most greatly invested in your own well-being! Don’t stay with a doctor simply because you are afraid to leave. If you are ready to move on to a new doctor’s office, just make sure you are doing it for the best reasons. Hopefully your new doctor’s office will offer you the ability to trust and be totally forthright.
I am just saying that if you are dealing with some sort of extraordinary medical condition, please invest your time to be totally honest with your physician(s). Talk with him or her in a frank and honest way. If your disease has major issues that are kind of sensitive to talk about, and you are afraid to talk face-to-face with your doctor but feel you can be more frank with the nurse or physician assistant, then do that! If the issue is particularly awkward for you, then at the very least, keep a journal and share that with your doctor’s office. At least the information is being conveyed. While there are preferred methods of sharing, getting the information is more essential than the method of delivery.
I don’t know what the facts are that surround Sarah’s case, but it is a tragedy any time a 20-something person passes away. Don’t let her passing be for nothing. We can learn from her. Take care of yourself medically, and work to foster a relationship of openness and trust with your medical professionals. Without trusting our medical professionals, how can we expect them to treat us in a way to actually improve our health? And at the end of the day, what is more important than our health? Dare I say it… nothing.